Work and Order at Home
Maintaining cleanliness and order at home is not easy. Mothers used to be the
primary housekeepers who worked very hard to provide proper meals and a
comfortable home for their husbands and children. Working mothers lack the time
and energy to cook and keep order; they need help from children and husbands to
get all the chores done.
When the family fails to share the work of home maintenance, disorder takes
over. Messy kitchens, bedrooms, and living areas are demoralizing. Chaos tends
to produce more chaos and the whole family suffers. Arguments are often about
messes and the failure to share the work-load equitably. Parents who do not
involve their children in work at home are making a mistake.
Children prefer spending time playing with peers, watching TV and playing
video games. They will neglect home duties if allowed to do so. Before
adolescence, parents must engage their children in daily cooperative work and
home and teach them self-maintenance skills. By the age of 14, every human
should be capable of self-maintenance and should have a good understanding of
how to contribute to the well being of others through work at home. Learning to
create and maintain an orderly living environment is as important as passing
courses at school. Unless a child is destined to have maids, housekeepers and
cooks, he or she must learn to keep their room clean, contribute to meal
planning, preparation and clean up. Self care and healthy self-regulation are
requisites of a health sane life.
Diligent parents work hard to involve their children in chores at home and
may appear to be strict and demanding. Too strict and too demanding parents, of
course, create rebellious children who are hostile and will flee from the family
home as soon as they are able.
Learning to create and maintain an orderly living environment is as important
as passing courses at school. Unless a child is destined to have maids,
housekeepers and cooks, he or she must learn to keep their room clean,
contribute to meal planning, preparation and clean up. Self care and healthy
self-regulation are requisites of a health sane life. A good parent will
continue to insist that teenage members of their family give priority to
completing chores at home. It is a mistake to give teenagers money that they
have not earned.
Three vital needs of children can be encouraged with one strategy – reward
results and good behavior. The first need is to be taught to do the right things
and to be rewarded for the effort. Children need to be taught home care, task-oriented
planning and scheduling. Children need to be taught about money, especially the
relationship between task accomplishment and monetary reward. Task and rewards
should be well defined and include a schedule. The emphasis is reward, but
reasonable fines can levied occasionally for failure to complete tasks and
specific rule infractions. A child who fails often needs help, not punishment.
Parents can define routine care that comes free with the home and describe all
extras as “privileges” that are earned. All money given to children is earned,
except for gifts on special occasions.