|Children, Adolescents, Family|
Work and Order at Home
Maintaining cleanliness and order at home is not easy. Mothers used to be the primary housekeepers who worked very hard to provide proper meals and a comfortable home for their husbands and children. Working mothers lack the time and energy to cook and keep order; they need help from children and husbands to get all the chores done.
When the family fails to share the work of home maintenance, disorder takes over. Messy kitchens, bedrooms, and living areas are demoralizing. Chaos tends to produce more chaos and the whole family suffers. Arguments are often about messes and the failure to share the work-load equitably. Parents who do not involve their children in work at home are making a mistake.
Children prefer spending time playing with peers, watching TV and playing video games. They will neglect home duties if allowed to do so. Before adolescence, parents must engage their children in daily cooperative work and home and teach them self-maintenance skills. By the age of 14, every human should be capable of self-maintenance and should have a good understanding of how to contribute to the well being of others through work at home. Learning to create and maintain an orderly living environment is as important as passing courses at school. Unless a child is destined to have maids, housekeepers and cooks, he or she must learn to keep their room clean, contribute to meal planning, preparation and clean up. Self care and healthy self-regulation are requisites of a health sane life.
Diligent parents work hard to involve their children in chores at home and may appear to be strict and demanding. Too strict and too demanding parents, of course, create rebellious children who are hostile and will flee from the family home as soon as they are able.
Learning to create and maintain an orderly living environment is as important as passing courses at school. Unless a child is destined to have maids, housekeepers and cooks, he or she must learn to keep their room clean, contribute to meal planning, preparation and clean up. Self care and healthy self-regulation are requisites of a health sane life. A good parent will continue to insist that teenage members of their family give priority to completing chores at home. It is a mistake to give teenagers money that they have not earned.
Three vital needs of children can be encouraged with one strategy – reward good results and good behavior. The first need is to be taught to do the right things and to be rewarded for the effort. Children need to be taught home care, task-oriented planning and scheduling. Children need to be taught about money, especially the relationship between task accomplishment and monetary reward. Task and rewards should be well defined and include a schedule. The emphasis is reward, but reasonable fines can levied occasionally for failure to complete tasks and specific rule infractions. A child who fails often needs help, not punishment. Parents can define routine care that comes free with the home and describe all extras as “privileges” that are earned. All money given to children is earned, except for gifts on special occasions.
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